Candle Magic for Blessings
For this ritual, you will need:
red candle (spell or chime candles work best but taper candles are just fine, too)
a safe place to put your candles (a tray?)
a firesafe bowl or cauldron
pen + paper
Note: This ritual was originally written for Halloween/Samhain but candle magic can be done at any time.
Samhain marks the halfway point between the autumnal equinox and the winter solstice. For centuries and centuries, since ancient times, Samhain has Celtic pagan origins and celebrates the beginning of the dark half of the year. Traditionally, bonfires with cleansing and protective powers were lit with special rituals, and as you probably know, this is the time when the “veil is thin.” But what exactly does that mean?
Samhain is the time when it’s said to be easiest to cross between worlds. The boundaries are really the veil, and there are fewer of them during Beltane (spring) and Samhain (Halloween). This makes it easier for some to communicate with the spirit world and it is said that spirits and faeries can enter the human world more easily during this time.
Traditionally, offerings are left for ancestors and spirits, and many dedicate altars of food, drink, crystals, tea and coffee, flowers, gourds, etc. This holiday coincides with All Soul’s Day on November 1, so souls on the other side including ancestors, spirit guides, goddesses, faeries, and more could visit their homes seeking hospitality and comfort, and this is why Halloween is spooky, and eventually these two were merged to create Halloween. This is our favorite pagan holiday, obviously, because it’s just the best.
Traditional rituals included slaughtering livestock — not as an offering but just as a necessary means of farming — and sprinkling blood at the doorways as an offering to St. Martin. We ain’t gonna get all into that, lovelies, but there is a lot of fire ritual involved with Samhain, as well, and we can go there.
To do this ritual:
Have your bowl ready
Use the red ribbon to tie your three candles together
Without blowing out the match, light each of the three candles from the same flame (obviously you can blow it out at the end, but blowing it out blows the spirit away, so you want to be sure to light the candles first). Light black, red, and then white. Recite the following as you light each candle, or you can make up your own:
The past fades to black and I hold its lessons and memories close. I am filled with gratitude for the growth I have achieved this year.
I see red when I look forward to the future because I am overflowing with passion and excitement. I know that my future is filled with abundance and adventure. I am blessed by the guidance of my spirit guides and ancestors.
I revel in pure, lily white comfort of the present moment because I know that the only time that exists is this moment. I am grateful for all the blessings in my current reality.
Now that your candles are lit, write a letter to the women who came before you. Honor and appreciate all that they did to pave the path for you. You can pick someone specific like your great-great-grandma or RBG or whatever you want— or it can be to women/ancestors in general. I also highly recommend sealing it with a kiss. Place it on your altar or workspace, under the candles’ tray.
The last thing you’re going to do is write 1-3 things you would like to leave at the crossroads. The idea is to elevate from this point forward. Do you need to release… anger or resentment towards a specific person? …guilt for putting yourself first? …not having confidence in yourself? Write it down (one per page), place it in the bowl or cauldron, and ceremoniously light it on fire. Really make a ritual out of it and concentrate on releasing what you are leaving behind.